"As I define stability, it is not inflexibility or resistance to positive change. It does not mean fewer choices or avoiding challenges. Stability is constancy – of character or purpose, tenacity, steadfastness, reliability, and dependability. It is a grounding, a rooting, or anchor. Unfortunately, stability seems rarer and rarer as life goes faster and faster.
"I'll share today five anchors which help stabilize my life. They are testimony, relationships with others, charity, progress and maturity. . . ."Testimony is a result of choice, not of circumstances. The wonderful thing about life is that despite the injustices of this world, each of us still has the choice to believe. I can see great injustices: homeless children, innocent victims of war or ignorance, people alone and unloved, and it troubles my soul. But I believe that God is just. . . . At some point in life one must make a decision, `I will do this with my life,' and then circumstances don't determine your actions, and circumstances don't drive you away from the truth. In all seasons of life, testimony is a conscious choice. . . .
"My second anchor is my relationships with others. . . . Cultivating a variety of friends including those in my immediate and extended family has brought me stability. I love my friends and family. . . .
"Friendships are enhanced through exercising charity – another of my anchors. All life is enriched through charity. . . . Charity is the context for all we do, for it is our major means of becoming Christlike. If charity is the pure love of Christ, then learning its laws is the way to know more about our Savior. No pursuit will bring more stability to our lives than this.
"I can feel good about myself if I can detect that in some way I am a better person today than I was a year ago. An awareness of progression, even if it is small in the eyes of the world, provides the stabilizing sense of worth I need. . . . Progress is an individual matter. Our achievement should be measured against our own past accomplishments. Progression brings stability because it brings goals and achievement. There is much more happiness in becoming something than in getting something.
"My fifth anchor is maturity. . . . Maturity is what allows acceptance of self even when you are not all you would want to be. We should never abandon the quest for a better self. Nor should we allow ourselves to become immobilized, thinking we are nobody. One of Satan's greatest tools is to convince us to think that we are worth nothing or to deny our divine heritage. Such maturity allows us to accept who and where we are. This same maturity can give us the moral courage to make our actions consistent with our knowledge of right and wrong, that is to be `doers of the word'. . . .
"Mature people, regardless of age, are able to face themselves and act in positive ways despite flaws they may see. We all have parts of our character we don't like. Mature people `press forward with a steadfastness in Christ, having a perfect brightness of hope and a love of God and all men' (2 Nephi 31:20)."
5 Stabilizing Anchors:
- Relationships with others
- Women from as far away as South Africa and from as close as next door converged on BYU campus April 6-7 for the university's annual Women's Conference.
Isaiah 33:6 served as the theme for the conference, " . . . wisdom and knowledge shall be the stability of thy times. . . ." Approximately 4,000 women attended more than 30 presentations and learned about subjects as varied as following Christ, managing money, developing leadership skills, health care, parenting, and the arts.
More than 75 presenters were involved in the conference, either speaking or participating on the 13 panel discussions. From the opening session, which included a special dance presentation, to the closing session, which featured the BYU Women's Choir, the conference offered encouragement and instruction to the thousands of participants.
Included are excerpts from two of the conference presentations.