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President Thomas S. Monson: 'Giving without thought of getting'

Finding peace in the Savior's teachings

Acknowledging that the Christmas season with its special meaning and beauty brings "rest to the weary soul," President Thomas S. Monson in his First Presidency Christmas Devotional message Dec. 2 observed, "It is easy to get caught up in the pressure of the season and perhaps lose the very spirit in our lives that we're trying to gain."

"Overdoing it is especially common this time of year for many of us," the Church president observed. "The causes for this might include too many Christmas activities to attend, too much to eat, too many expectations and too much tension. Often our efforts at Christmas time result in our feeling stressed out, wrung out and worn out during a time we should feel the simple joys of commemorating the birth of our Savior."

President Thomas S. Monson, center, sits with President Henry B. Eyring, left, and President Dieter
President Thomas S. Monson, center, sits with President Henry B. Eyring, left, and President Dieter F. Uchtdorf. | Photo by Scott G Winterton, Deseret News

The real joy of Christmas is found from making the Savior Jesus Christ the focus of the season, President Monson affirmed. "We can keep Him in our thoughts and in our lives as we go about the work He would have us perform here on earth."

President Monson spoke of the elderly as "a segment of our society desperately yearning for an expression of love."

President Thomas S. Monson speaks during the First Presidency Christmas Devotional Sunday, Dec., 2,
President Thomas S. Monson speaks during the First Presidency Christmas Devotional Sunday, Dec., 2, 2012, in the Conference Center. | Photo by Scott G Winterton, Deseret News

"The chill wind of dying hopes and vanished dreams whistles through the ranks of the elderly and those who approach the declining side of the summit of life," he mused.

He declared that true love is a reflection of the Savior's love. "In December of each year we call it the Christmas spirit. You can hear it. You can see it. You can feel it."

President Monson recalled an experience he had as an 11-year-old boy attending Primary. One day, the Primary president, a gray-haired lady named Melissa, asked him to stay behind to converse with her.

"She placed her arm about my shoulder and began to cry," he related. "Surprised, I asked her why she was crying.

President Thomas S. Monson speaks during the First Presidency Christmas Devotional Sunday, Dec., 2,
President Thomas S. Monson speaks during the First Presidency Christmas Devotional Sunday, Dec., 2, 2012, in the Conference Center. | Photo by Scott G Winterton, Deseret News

"She replied, 'I can't seem to get the Trail Builder boys to be reverent during the opening exercises of Primary. Would you be willing to help me, Tommy?' "

He promised that he would, and soon found that his promise ended any problem of reverence in Primary.

"She had gone to the source of the problem – me," he said. "The solution was love."

Years later, Melissa, who was in her 90s, was living in a Salt Lake City nursing home.

Members of the Tabernacle Choir sing during the First Presidency Christmas Devotional Sunday, Dec.,
Members of the Tabernacle Choir sing during the First Presidency Christmas Devotional Sunday, Dec., 2, 2012, in the Conference Center. | Photo by Scott G Winterton, Deseret News

"Just before Christmas I determined to visit my beloved Primary president," President Monson recounted. While driving to the destination, he heard on the car radio the song "Hark! the Herald Angels Sing." He thought of the Wise Men who brought gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh to the Christ child.

"I brought only the gift of love and a desire to say thank you," he said.

He found Melissa in the lunch room of the nursing home staring at her plate of food. As he spoke to her there was no response, only a blank stare. He took her fork in his hand and began to feed her, talking all the time about her service to boys and girls as a Primary worker.

Two other residents of the nursing home gazed in puzzlement at him, and one said, "Don't talk to her. She doesn't know anyone – even her own family. She hasn't said a word in all the time she's been here."

As the lunch ended and he stood to leave, he held her hand and said, "God bless you, Melissa. Merry Christmas."

"Without warning, she spoke the words, 'I know you. You're Tommy Monson, my Primary boy. How I love you.' She pressed my hand to her lips and bestowed on it a sweet kiss filled with love. Tears coursed down her cheeks and bathed our clasped hands. Those hands, that day, were hallowed by heaven and graced by God. The herald angels did sing."

President Monson urged, "There is no better time than now, this very Christmas season, for all of us to rededicate ourselves to the principles taught by Jesus Christ. It is the time to love the Lord, our God, with all our heart – and our neighbors as ourselves. It is well to remember that he who gives money gives much; he who gives time gives more; but he who gives of himself gives all."

Christmas "isn't just tinsel and ribbon, unless we have made it so in our lives," President Monson remarked. "Christmas is the spirit of giving without a thought of getting. It is happiness because we see joy in people. It is forgetting self and finding time for others. It is discarding the meaningless and stressing the true values. It is peace because we have found peace in the Savior's teachings. It is the time we realize most deeply that the more love is expended, the more there is of it for others."

President Monson concluded with this wish: "May we, as did the Wise Men, seek a bright, particular star to guide us to our Christmas opportunity in service to our fellow man. May we all make the journey to Bethlehem in spirit, taking with us a tender, caring heart as our gift to the Savior, and may one and all have a joy-filled Christmas."

rscott@desnews.com

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